Settling into our new schedule

As I’m settling into our new schedules, I’m finding that what used to keep me organized isn’t working anymore. I used to be able to write it all out and plan ahead and feel like I was rocking everything as a mom, wife and a person.

I had to go back to the drawing board and come up with a new way. The first thing I did was to sit down with myself and figure out what wasn’t working and why. Then I had to figure out how I was going to come up with a new system.

Here’s the thing. When I sat down with myself, I had to be real honest. The reason my systems were working was because of ME! I didn’t want to do them anymore. WOW, that was hard for me. I pride myself on being a good mom, wife, and person. I still want to be things to be organized but I didn’t feel like I knew how.

Keeping everything up the way I’ve always done it wasn’t what I wanted to do anymore. Not because I don’t love my family, home or myself, but because I’ve grown and changed. For example, let’s talk about dinner. I used to love to cook and take the time to do all the meal planning, shopping and prepping. I now don’t want to do it. I actually HATE doing it. I am LOVING working and would rather work and spend quality time with my family instead of having to cook and clean. I’ve decided to try a different way. I’m going to keep making my favorite, easy dinners for the nights we are all home (which is only Wednesdays right now) and for the other nights I’m doing Hello Fresh and planning a night at a restaurant or takeout, (there may have been a week we ate out 4 times!)

It sounds easy enough, but it wasn’t. I grew up in a house where my mom cooked a lot during the week, and my parents enjoy cooking together on the weekends. I felt like that’s how I “should” be doing it. I had to let go of that thought! My new thought is, “I’m feeding my family, my way.”

Sometimes when we are organizing, we get stuck in the way things have always been, or how we were taught how to do things. Guess what! We don’t always have to do it that way. We shouldn’t always do things the way they were done. We all only get one shot of this life and we need to make sure we are making the most of it that we can. I have spent countless hours with clients who feel they need to keep things or organize things the way their parents did, or the way they were taught to, but in fact it can make you more unorganized and unhappy. You need to take the time to organize it the way YOU want it and need it to be.

This is why I love to coach people with their organizing! From my experience, people know how to organize themselves once they are able to get past their own thoughts of should and shouldn’t.

“Maybe the journey isn’t so much about becoming anything. Maybe it’s about un-becoming everything that isn’t really you.” Paul Coelho